29 JULY 2021 | 13H03

When I’m overwhelmed with life’s complexities, I exercise. Exercising is exhilarating; it provides an energy boost. Mental congestion caused by overthinking clogs your productivity; hence it’s vital to have a place to release unwanted pressure – this is what exercising is to me.

Captured: Phindy who embraces her mother’s teachings while allowing herself to become her own kind.

When I went for a jog yesterday, many thoughts passed my mind, which is the norm. Dreams and hopes reinvigorate my body which makes me wonder how unfit people cope. Some people prefer waiting for an extended period for a parking spot instead of parking further down and walking more. I favour parking additionally that I can walk longer and burn calories along the way. Yet this depends if you’ll be doing your month-end groceries or if you’re grabbing a few items. If it’s a few, walk it out. Moreover, as I ran, I thought of the role parents play in their children’s lives. Parents are mirrors to their young, particularly in early childhood development. My thoughts led to questioning why I enjoyed exercising so much, and I concluded that my parents planted the passion. They would go to the gym when we were younger until we were old enough to train. When we were the right age, my siblings and I tagged along, and we had access to the club’s facilities. I held on to exercising then. It made me feel good, and I valued gym sessions with my mother.

I grew up as a heavy girl, so when I knew that I could impact how I look through training, I couldn’t stop. The more I trained, the more my appearance changed until it became an addiction. Exercising can become an obsession due to the endorphins released from your body. These are happy hormones that trigger a euphoric life view similar to the impact of morphine. There was a point I overindulged in training to the extent that when my sister had an emergency a few years ago, I chose to go to the gym over assisting her. This memory traumatises me when I mention it. I’m now in control of my training, and should I be unable to get my workout done, I’ll let it slip. Living healthy is more about what you eat than how often you train. If I know that I’d eaten clean on the day I’m unable to train, my mind will be at ease.

My parents are to thank for my attitude towards exercising. Suppose they hadn’t planted the seed; who knows where I would be. This brings me to the essence of this article: As a parent, you influence your child’s decisions and future choices. You set the mark for their life. They can live up to that mark, live below it, or exceed it by 100 times. My other point is that no matter how invested you may be in equipping your children for success, they will make their own decisions. External forces alongside your teachings mould them into who they become. It would help if you accepted that your child wouldn’t be your replica, but it’s good to instil lifelong lessons regardless. Your teachings will create a template to weigh their decisions against, even if they deviate from them. Pondering on the significance of my parents towards my training life leads me to acknowledge the equal contribution the broader world has played. For instance, I enjoy using makeup, while my mother, on no account, used it (a story for another day). The adult me decided what image I want for myself, so I’ve had to surrender some of her teachings to accommodate my desires.

As parents, we often get consumed by life’s activities without considering that little sponges observe our deeds. Furthermore, our offspring hold the keys to their destinies by sifting what we teach. Let’s be cognizant of these two factors and provide our young with the best while conceding to their own decisions – they will become who they want to be.


                                                            Lots of Love, Phindy xx