29 October 2020 | 08:51
Katlego Maboe, the infamous Outsurance ambassador and Sabc 3’s Expresso presenter, was accused of cheating on his live-in partner Monique Muller after she posted a video of their confrontation. In the video Muller confronts her partner about his affair. Maboe owned up to his actions and later owned us to his actions on an Instagram post. He went to say “I’d like to state that I have never abused my partner. I have always and will always stand up against the abuse of women and children – in fact, the abuse of anyone for that matter.” He posted this shortly after allegations of abuse towards his partner arouse and fans quickly understood cheating as abuse.
A question was recently posed on social media: Is cheating considered a form of abuse or are the two unrelated and should be addressed separately? The public was quick to give their comments with a fair number of females claiming infidelity causes emotional problems. After speaking to a clinical psychologist in Phoenix, Dr Hamid, she was able to put matters into perspective: “Abuse is any action that intentionally harms or injures a person.” There’s different dynamics, its a complex issue. With abuse you intentionally use power and control to inflict pain. With infidelity, it’s a breach of trust however the intent isn’t to cause harm. Usually when someone abuses you they do it openly through the display of power like hitting a victim. It’s the victim who choses to be silent and hide the abuse. With Infidelity the motivation isn’t to inflict harm but to fill a certain void. It has nothing to do with the relationship but the guilty individual. The intention isn’t to cause harm though it may later to lead to a form of emotional abuse. It’s dangerous to cross the boundaries to call infidelity abuse. One is a clear break of trust; the other is using power and control to the detriment of the victim.”
Dr Hamid later alluded that in such a situation, the couple ought to solve their problems personally as such a problem can be fixed through counselling. She said whatever happens moving forward should be to the best interest of the child so that their son can still thrive without any conflict “children are resilient, they bounce back very quickly. They give what they get. If the couple can still raise their child in a loving environment whether as a couple or co-parents, the child should be fine.”
Written by Phindile Mshudulu for Phoenix Sun newspapers >> https://phoenixsun.co.za/93959/is-cheating-a-form-of-abuse/
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